Tips on attracting F2M guys

[wosret]

I realize that they (you) all probably have a wide variety of preferences, and tastes, but I'm hoping to gain at least some insight into how to proceed.

I'm a bio guy, internal girl, but my physical expression is pretty masculine (I don't advertise, and am more worried about being accepted for who I am than looking a certain way). I would like to feminize myself a lot more, but I would like to attract my antithesis even more. A bio girl, internal guy just seems the most intuitive to me. This is my goal.

So it would be supremely excellent, and I would be ever so grateful, if any trans guys, or even friends or lovers of trans guys with experience could tell me what their dream partner is like.

What do they look like, dress like, act like, and where would you most likely meet them?

What kind of physical expression, and dimensions would you find arousing, and attention grabbing?

How do you like to be treated, and interacted with? What would they behave like, and what would they talk like? That kind of thing.

Any help, or discussion at all would be fantastic, thank you. I'm just really nervous, and am terrible at, and super nervous about initiating contact, or making the first move. I prefer to just sound smart, or look cute until they come on to me.

Trans guys seem so rare though, I have to be proactive.

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`There's lots of diversity of preferences for transguys as well, so what I say isn't exactly definitive.

For one, your profile says your a man looking for a women and that isn't going to attract transguys at all. If you are going to identify as female, even pre-hormones, you need to be comfortable with that. If you're trying to attract a straight transguy, they're are going to need you to validate them as male, and yourself as female. If you identify as male, even a feminine one, then that's fine as well. About half of the fellow transguys I meet are gay, or bi/pan/etc.

I'm a straight transguy, so I like my partner to be feminine, more in personality than looks, but nothing gets me like a dress to impress attitude. Depending on where the guy is in his transition, he'll be more attracted to someone who treats him like the guy he feels he is- letting him be dominant, accepting typical male roles/stereotypes. Guys that are further in there transition tend to be less self conscious and don't need this as much.

There's not really much difference to interacting with a transguy and a cisguy, just use the right pronouns and don't refer to our "female" organs and the conversation should run smoothly.

Some guys are very sensitive with physical interaction- ie. what they like to be touched, while others simply don't care and enjoy the ride. Usually a universal "don't" is groping of the chest, but if they're post op this isn't a problem. Not all transguys enjoy penetrative --- either, so even if they're into mtfs, it doesn't mean they want you to ---- them. So if the convo steers that route, don't make assumptions. Personally, that's how I am with mtfs, but it doesn't mean I can't please them in other ways if you get my drift. Some girls are okay with that, others aren't; not sure your preference.

I don't think transguys are more rare, they just are able to pass rather well after a period of time into transition and many choose to go stealth or not openly identify as trans. I'm 10 weeks into my transition, but never get misgendered. You can imagine what a couple years would do. Point being, we just become invisible.

To end my rant, if you identify as male- seek gay transguys and treat them no differently than cismales. You'll have to talk with them a bit to see they're own preference. If you identify as female, it is unlikely than transmales will be interested unless you dress/act more feminine. We're more accommodating to the process because we're going through our own. I have nothing but respect for transwomen- who in comparison, make my life seem easy.

[wosret]

`Firstly, the thing about the profile, when I was filling the stuff out, it requests (but doesn't demand) that you put your "biological gender", which doesn't even make sense! Conflating sex, and gender, but I was charitable, and it screwed me! I'll try to figure out how to change that right away.

This is all extremely helpful, and I'm not huge into being -------- aggressive, or transgressive, not that I can't be active, but I'm bad at leading -- so none of that is a problem for me.

You're right, that it's probably just your stealthiness, and I just don't notice. What kind of places would I find you guys hanging out? That may be a strange question, but online places are fine.

[wosret]

`Thanks a lot. I joined up. I really just want to know some cool guys that understand me, and also wouldn't mind getting to know a lot more people like me as well. I would like to be more active in my own community too, but this is a good start.

I'ma friend u, k? :D